bachelor | man's point of view
Trouble needs no invitation
By Larry McEntire

 

 

 

He did everything
that he could to
talk her out of
leaving but was
unable to. Her
mind was made
up. Her bags were
packed both physically
and mentally,
and there would
be no turning
back. Jerry spent
the next year trying
to figure out
what he had done
wrong, or what he
should have done
to prevent this
from happening,
but was unable to
find an answer.

f I've learned only one thing in the 48 years I've been on this Earth, it's that trouble will come a'callin' even when you didn't put your order in for it.
Many times in my life I have found myself in a world of crap when just six months prior everything was normal. I was the same guy then as I was before! This has happened in business, health, and most certainly in the area that I make my living...relationships.
  My wife Beth and I work together helping men across the country explore an option that they may not have been aware of before, finding their lifetime partner somewhere other than their hometown, state or country. We live six months of the year in the Philippines and have 60 agents there helping us. We run ads nationally, informing single American men of our service, and as a result, we have 50 to 100 calls a day coming in on our 800-numbers from single men from New York City to San Diego requesting our information packet.
  Just as a nurse that works in the burn ward at Baylor would be sensitive to those that come in badly burned, and like the director of a battered women's shelter would understand the terror some women face with abusive husbands, I am constantly made aware of many men across our country fed up with the actions of American women.
  One story comes to mind of a 51-year-old man in Colorado named Jerry who called me about 10 months ago. He had been divorced for a little over a year and was telling me a story that broke my heart, even after all the stories I hear every day.
  He had married for the first time when he was 27 and in the course of a 22 year marriage had five daughters, the youngest being 10 at the time of their divorce. His 15-year-old daughter wrote a poem at school that was so touching that her teacher called and read it to him. The young girl had written how her mother had raised her up to trust in the Lord, and to follow the teachings of the Bible, and then left them for some man they didn't even know existed! The oldest daughter still at home in her senior year missed the Honor Society for the first time, and was having to see a therapist because of her depression.
  Jerry had never believed divorce would ever be in his life, and had lived a conservative lifestyle with his wife and daughters in Colorado, working as an auto mechanic, going to church two to three times a week.

 They had as much money as they had ever had, and didn't argue any more than normal, so his wife's desire to leave him and the girls came as a complete surprise to everybody. Jerry was a virgin at age 27, and had never been with another woman in his life when she left him and married a guy eight years younger than herself, leaving the four daughters that were still at home with him to raise by himself.
  He did everything that he could to talk her out of leaving but was unable to. Her mind was made up, and the pleadings of a brokenhearted father and four girls had no outward effect. Her bags were packed both physically and mentally, and there would be no turning back.
  Jerry spent the next year trying to figure out what he had done wrong, or what he should have done to prevent this from happening, but was unable to find an answer. Encouraging words from his pastor and friends of their shock and disbelief of what his wife had done had little effect on his feelings. Life as he knew it had come to an end...yes, trouble doesn't need an invitation.
  I hear a lot of advocates for women, but our society sometimes takes the attitude that a man can take care of himself. There is more than one way to be beaten up. It doesn't have to be with fists. Betrayal hits pretty hard, and has been said to be on of the most difficult things to go through. I've personally been there two times in my own life, and having five sons, I don't look forward to the future without some reservation.
  Our president, the champion of women's rights who was most certainly elected by the women's vote, continues to enjoy their endorsement no matter what he does. No person or cause will ever look more stupid than when you're defending the undefendable.
  There is no doubt that some who are reading the account of the fellow in Colorado will be thinking there are two sides to every story, and that Jerry must have driven his wife to do it. I wonder if they feel the same way about OJ Simpson.
  For a recorded message about obtaining Larry & Beth's free information packet, you may call 972-509-0787 or reach them personally at 972-509-0813 in Plano.
   
Sept./Oct. 1998 | DM
     

 

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